Updated December 29, 2009
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Each of us is responsible for only our own emotions. When you perceive yourself as being responsible for someone else’s emotions then you suffer the consequences of guilt when you are unable to make them happy.
And you do them no service - no matter how much you may think you are doing it out of love and/or consideration. You might just as well put a ball and chain around their ankle and pound a stake through the chain into the ground. Because as long as you allow them to rely on you for their emotional well being, you keep them from moving forward to learn how to make their own choices and be the master of their own emotions.
Each of us, every day and in every situation make a choice to react or respond. We can choose to be happy or mad or sad. We can choose to be miserable over a love gone wrong. We can choose to take responsibility for someone else’s emotions with the inherent consequences. We can choose to allocate blame for our own mistakes. But for every negative choice possible there is a positive choice just as readily available. We can choose to look at every circumstance as an opportunity to grow.
What we cannot do is make anybody else responsible for our emotions nor should we make ourselves responsible for theirs.
Emotional Responsibility
